Do you remember how your stomach tickled when you bought your first house? Went out with the Lady of your Heart/Prince for the first time?
Our hearts beat faster when something we have been longing for finally becomes reality. Nothing stands between you and ultimate happiness anymore.
There comes a point where dreams lose its glamour. The new house or friend are still important – but not the priority anymore. The special becomes commonness. It does not happen overnight. It is a creeping development.
As soon as a need has been fulfilled, it's importance changes. If we are hungry, a good meal is the highest priority. Until we ate. Repetition also kills the appeal of novelty. After a few weeks, the new car of our dreams becomes a commodity.
Wishes come and go. It's part of life. The more relaxed we go about it, the more effortless our life becomes. As soon as we stop believing our happiness depends on the fulfillment of this or that wish, our lives change dramatically. For the better.
Taking your wishes less serious does not mean you get rid of them. It is about looking at the desire and reflecting its importance for your happiness.
After all, once you fulfilled a wish – the next one is already lurking behind the corner.
For me, happiness includes being grateful for what you have. If you still long for something that is missing, you continue the hunt. The art is to focus on the substantial events in our lives.
With a bit of mindfulness, I start seeing more and more beautiful things in my everyday life. The happiness about a great conversation weights heavier than the anger about heavy traffic on my way home.
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