Emotional intelligence might still be a highly underrated and yet, the most important set of skills and character traits.
EQ stands for emotional quotient. Opposite to “classic” intelligence, emotional talents are not related to mathematics or physics. It describes the ability to deal with our emotions and the emotions of others. Goethe called it: “development of the heart.”
People with a high EQ can assess and influence their emotions as well as the emotions of others.
In line with this, they are often successful in their jobs, even though they might possess limited professional qualifications. They can form and nurture positive relationships better than people with a low EQ.
Emotional talent is a huge advantage for anyone in a leadership role, and especially everywhere where diplomacy and the ability to communicate with people is needed (for instance: negotiations, employee management).
How to identify people with a high EQ
Have a look at your professional and personal environment. Do the characteristics listed below apply to someone you know—or even yourself? If so, it is safe to assume that these people have a high EQ.
People with a high EQ…
1. Have a realistic self-image
They understand their needs, emotions, motives, and goals. They are self-aware and know their skills, strengths, weaknesses, and emotions.
Likewise, they neither under- nor overestimate themselves.
2. Can control their emotions
They are good at influencing their mood and emotions. That strength comes to play when they are angry or do not want to show that they are disappointed.
The ability to self-regulate (react appropriately) is helpful in a professional and personal environment.
3. Can motivate themselves
People with a high EQ can self-motivate and develop passion. The ability to motivate yourself is especially helpful in difficult situations and when they don’t go according to plan.
Moreover, emotionally intelligent people have a higher frustration tolerance.
4. Are empathic
It is easy for them to understand the emotions and point of views of others. They accept different opinions even if they disagree. In addition to that, they can motivate and comfort people and make them feel good about themselves.
Empathy is considered a leadership skill. Empathic managers can understand and therefore motivate people better than those without empathy.
Empathy must not be mistaken for compassion (see: 5 common misconceptions about empathy).
5. They are socially able
6. Are good communicators
